While “mentoring” is the one word that best describes the root philosophy of The Theory of 5, there’s more to it than that. The word brings to mind a younger person sitting at the feet of an older, wiser individual learning the lessons they have to give — and that’s certainly part of it — but the philosophy goes deeper than that.
While the terms “role models” and “mentors” are often interchangeable, I’d make a distinction between them when it comes to The Theory of 5:
Role Model— These are people we admire. They are accomplishing goals in their lives and we want to be like them. They might be outside our personal network, though; in fact, we may never meet them in real life. We can use their lessons or examples in our own lives, but we admire them from afar. These people might not even be alive; history is full of role models who have valuable lessons to teach.
Mentor — This is someone who models the behaviors and examples we want to emulate, and with whom we can have a personal relationship. A mentor may take an active role in our development and may even become a lifelong friend. We develop a connection with them that will deepen over time.
In addition to these people, there’s another kind of relationship — co-mentoring — that is integral to The Theory of 5. This is where peers focus on developing each other’s skills, habits and attitudes in any or all areas of life.
In this type of relationship, both people reciprocate, supporting one another’s development through continued exchange of ideas, concepts and sharing of knowledge. Instead of a “leader/boss” hierarchy, the co-mentoring relationship is strictly focused on improving one another.
In many cases, with people who want to excel, this just happens naturally — in sports, for example, or in the business world.
In co-mentoring, we may receive guidance in one area from someone while perhaps providing them guidance in an area in which we’re stronger. These are the relationships that enrich everyone’s lives, and where The Theory of 5 really comes to life.
we’ll be building relationships with more than one person to mentor us in various segments of our lives
All of these relationships — mentoring, co-mentoring and role models — have their place in our lives if we fully embrace The Theory of 5. To build ourselves and each other up in all five areas, we’ll be building relationships with more than one person to mentor us in various segments of our lives. It’s important to ensure the person we’re asking is the best one we know for a particular area.
Who are the people you know or admire who can offer you their support and guidance to attain your goals? Will it be a face-to-face relationship?
A long-distance/video conference type of connection? Or will it be someone who doesn’t know you and who you’ll never meet, but whose example you’d like to emulate?
Take a few moments to write down an initial list of those you believe might be the best role models/mentors/co-mentors in the five core areas of spirituality, marriage, parenting, business/finance and health.
Begin thinking in this way and you’ll take your first steps to living your best life — a Theory of 5 life.